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Structure creates freedom

For most of us, it starts well before we become aware of it: We live our lives in some sort of structure. Our parents structure our days, later daycare, primary and high school have specific structures and if we were involved in any after-school activities, they usually happened at particular times and in certain locations. So from a young age, many of us operate in some kind of structure. You have probably had moments where you wanted to rebel against one of those. Maybe you stayed out lon...

You get what you tolerate

I like language. I like playing with it. I enjoy playing with words, with sounds and with repetition. I like dad jokes. And I like it when language is simple. One of my favourite things is short phrases that capture the essence of a concept or an idea. Phrases like, ‘The Conversation is the Relationship’, ‘Structure creates Freedom’ (more on that soon), or the phrase I want to write about today: ‘You get what you tolerate.’ To me, these phrases capture the core of an idea or con...

The Conversation is the Relationship

As a young athlete, I thought I needed to be friends with my teammates. I was friendly with everyone, but I struggled with the idea of having to establish close friendships with them all. How was I supposed to make this work? It took me a while, but eventually, I realised that what teams need is not necessarily friendship (though it is a nice bonus when that happens), but trust and respect. And to build those, you need time and patience. And you need conversations.Years later, working as a ...

TEDx Nelson

Speaking at TEDx Nelson was an opportunity to tell our story and share what we’ve learned about emotions and their role in creating true connections.Download the workbook....